One simple tool to help you find forgiveness.

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Forgiving can be hard. When you are carrying around a way of blame for one thing that went on within the past, this bundle of negativity burrowing deep into yourself will cause a unending, pervasive sense of unhappiness. Forgiving is an important act of moving forward and releasing yourself from the past. It's also a way of protecting your health and general well-being.
One of the steps to forgiveness is to write a letter of forgiveness. Give yourself the gift of an attitude of gratitude and forgiveness.

FORGIVENESS LETTER by Valerie Smith - Psychotherapist and Life Coach.

Make a list of the events in your life for which you would like to forgive yourself or others. Whether it is a situation that you instigated or a hurt that you had no control over, if it is still consuming space in your life, write it down. If you are still angry, blaming someone or your self for something, get it onto paper. Don’t spend days on this list. Just give yourself a few minutes and write what comes to mind.

1. Write a letter to those people, person, your self, or Higher powers. Write about why you are angry. What are you blaming them or yourself for? What did they do to you or what have you done? Get it all out and leave nothing behind. Don’t stop until there is nothing to say. Draw it or paint it out your anger, your pain and your feelings.

2. What did you want in this relationship that was missing? What did you want but never had, either from yourself or another. It could be as simple as self-compassion or being allowed to fail and not be perfect. It could be that you wanted a parent to love and accept you for yourself. What would the ideal relationship have looked like with this person?

3. Read what you have written out loud, then burn or destroy all of the pages
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4. Give yourself some time to grieve the process that you have just experienced. Be gentle and nurturing to your self. Cleanse your energy: have a bath using sea salt and aromatherapy, light frankincense or sage incense, go to the spa or have a massage.

5. Now write a letter to yourself. Forgive yourself for all the hurt and pain you suffered.
Maybe you are still angry about something that happened when you were really young and part of the forgiveness might be that you were young and couldn’t stand up for yourself. That’s okay. You can forgive yourself for that today and know that you are old enough now to protect yourself from any more harm, and let it go. In your letter, forgive the others that you were blaming for your past: it doesn’t serve you to hang onto it at all. Know that we are all wounded and the best way to a great life is through forgiveness and gratitude. Forgive them. Forgive yourself.

6. Finish the letter with the things that you are grateful for. What learning did you receive as a result of the hurts and be grateful for that.

7. Put on your shoes and go for a walk to the mailbox, and mail this letter to yourself. Along the way focus on the love and forgiveness contained in this letter and mail it.

8. When the letter arrives back at your home, find a quiet moment to open and read it.

Give yourself the gift of an attitude of gratitude and forgiveness.

Valerie Smith is a Psychotherapist, Life Coach and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist. She is member of the Canadian Examining Board of Health Care Practitioners (CEBHCP), graduate of Transformational Art College in Toronto and a Certified Practitioner of Percussive Suggestion Therapy Level 1 (PSTEC) and Advanced PSTEC Corporate and Business Consultant for corporate advice and consultation for stress, employee welfare, and employee performance. Valerie is a member of the International Association of Past Life Therapists (IAPLT) and a Reiki Master.
Read more: http://www.evolutiontherapies.ca

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